reformated my lappie and blogger's still not working..=(
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by the way,, Yee Shi girl-ling sent me an email of an article :: When to Think About Marriage ?
quite informative..so i shall share it with all of you..=)
here it is ::


When to think about marriage?

Finding Mr. Right

The time will come when we start thinking about settling down. Of course, we only want the best when it comes to choosing someone for marriage. For a woman, to be with a good man who loves and respects her is a dream come true. If he is family-oriented and a good provider, then there seems to be nothing more she can ask for. Then again, no man is perfect. Sometimes, a woman learns to settle for what is good enough. It may take some time to find Mr. Right but then, one couldn’t just give up on the search.

What’s Right with Mr. Right

It takes time to really get to know a person. We do make our first impressions but then again, most first impressions do not last. It takes more than just a handsome face or a great smile to land the role of a good husband or provider. Here are some points to guide you. Happy Searching!

You know he could be Mr. Right when:

* He respects you. He not only respects your opinions but he respects you as a person. A man respects you when he listens to you and takes your feelings into consideration.
* He has a good job or at least tries to get a good one. A good and stable job shows that he can be responsible with time and money. If he stays long enough in a job, this means he can be patient and persistent too.
* He communicates with you. A good communicator is more than just someone who can handle a conversation over coffee or dinner. A man who communicates well knows how to relay his thoughts without sounding arrogant or narrow-minded. He listens to your thoughts and welcomes any suggestions. He is open to any discussion to make things work between you.
* He values your family and friends. A woman’s family and friends are part of her identity. They are her source of strength and support when times get tough. The right man will understand this and will not stop her from being with her friends and family.
* He supports your dreams and goals. A woman’s fulfillment may depend on how she envisions herself. Her sense of fulfillment may be a wonderful family, a progressive career, or a flourishing business. Presently, women are becoming more independent and highly educated. The right man has to welcome this and support her growth.

Should I marry or stay single?

Marriage entails a lot of responsibilities. It may be a wonderful thing if you have finally found someone you will be spending the rest of your life with. Just keep in mind that although you are together, this doesn’t mean you shall stop growing as individuals.

Whether to marry or to stay single is your own choice. Women have a lot of options nowadays. They are highly educated and are more independent. Some women may opt to stay single because they have decided to focus more on their careers or other pursuits. They believe they may not have the time to rear a family in case they marry. For some, painful experiences with past relationships may stop them from pursuing a married life.

In the end, you alone can decide what makes you happy. Look deep within you and try to think about what really matters in your life. Reflecting on your priorities can help you decide.

What’s the best age to marry?

Marriage entails a lot of responsibilities. Sooner or later, married couples realize that romance may play a very small role when the reality of married life sinks in. It is best to marry when you are mature enough. To be mature enough, it means you are not only mature sexually but also emotionally and mentally. Our body reaches sexual maturity by our late teens. This doesn’t mean that it’s okay to start marrying when you are 18 or 19. This is of course possible. However, try to be more responsible and look into the reality of things. Ask yourself if you have finished school, if you have a stable job, if you are ready to share your life with someone who is entirely different from you in many ways, if are you ready to take on new responsibilities like paying the rent and bills, if you are ready to stay up late to care for your children. Only when you are fully prepared to be a good spouse and parent should you start thinking about marriage.


and there it is..
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